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Inner Self Care in Uncertain Times

March 19th, 2020 · No Comments

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Social media is full of “how to be productive at home” suggestions. This isn’t one of them. Virtually all of us are distracted.

Nor is this a suggestion to be grateful for what you have. I’m hearing too many people proclaim gratitude through tightly gritted teeth.

Even those disciplined souls who typically stay far from the news are tuning in for updates. And there, we get more confusion and chaos.

So I’ve been re-reading When Things Fall Apart, Pema Chodron’s extraordinary reflection on traversing life’s inevitable obstacles.

She writes: “We think that if we just meditated enough or jogged enough or ate perfect food, everything would be perfect” but that, she says, is a form of death. It “doesn’t have any fresh air…It sets us up for failure, because sooner or later, we’re going to have an experience we can’t control.”

And darlings, we’ve collectively hit that spot, haven’t we? We are all in an experience we can’t control. And we’re not only out of control, we don’t know how long we’ll be home, out-of-work, out-of-school, separated from each other, and away from our normal lives.

But there’s tremendous clarity in that. We have no control and we don’t know what’s going to happen. Once we surrender to those facts, the only wise thing to do is to feel our feelings, find our truth, and stay connected with each other.

With that in mind, I’m offering two weekly group calls, focused on inner self-care, totally free. We’ll meet, connect, and share our stories and wisdom, and I’ll do some coaching.

Come whether you’ve got this, or whether you don’t. Whether you are stable or whether you are freaking out. You can come and participate, or hang out quietly and lurk. Or simply come out of a desire to connect.

If you are interested in joining, please send my assistant an email at

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African Lessons in Noticing

September 11th, 2009 · 5 Comments


Among the many lessons in the African bush, the lesson of stillness unfolded again and again. Many times during our game drives, we were invited to get still and notice what was happening around us.  Putting down our cameras and stopping our social chitchat, we sat still and simply did nothing.

Africa’s a place where there’s stillness in every direction, where the sights and sounds of human activity are completely absent, where not even the hum of a distant highway or an occasional overhead airplane breaks the silence.  Only the subtle presence of nature surrounded us.

Before long, our Shangaan tracker would quietly gesture to something which we hadn’t noticed.

Like the beautiful blue heron sitting beside this lake,



the impala grazing across the field,



or zebras hiding in the grasses,


and hippos disguised as boulders,


and elephants emerging from the forest.




The more still we got, the more we saw and heard and learned, and the more we connected with the beauty and wonder around us.

And we can do it anywhere.

This is the place we can become the detached, curious observers of ourselves and access our inner wisdom and intuition.

Lao Tzu teaches, “Empty your mind of all thoughts, let your heart be at peace  . . . you can deal with whatever life brings you.”

Africa is a powerful reminder.

Tags: inner wisdom · intuition · noticing · stillness